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Fear: The not so Great Motivator

 

Fear.  I think this is something we all go through on a daily basis in many parts of our life.  It is such a huge emotion for all of us and it literally paralyze us in our steps.  But fear is an invisible obstacle an imaginary story that deals with our basic inability to let go, to allow us to live our life as who we truly are instead of changing our course to avoid fear. 

 And out of all my fears, every single one that I have, they all have one thing in common they are all to extent a way of not wanting the pain and suffering that comes with life.  So this is where the noble truths come into play. 

 Ultimately my fear stops from being who I am, which is an ongoing struggle.  Fear stops me from doing something I want to do, or it stops me from being who I am, it hinders me from freely opening my soul to what it truly needs to be.  Sometimes all this fear is about something that I can’t even put a finger on, about something I don’t even understand, but the result is always the same it has stopped me.  It has created an invisible obstacle that does not allow me to be who I should. 

Then again they say fear is a great motivator, but is that the motivation you want.  Because that comes from a decision that is not based on your true self but based on an emotion that is created by external factors for a result you may or may not want to have.  I wish sometimes that what I was looking to do was something like jumping off a diving board.  One that was long and tall that I could just run off and hold my nose, and like that, in one, two, three seconds I could overcome my fear and just take the plunge.  But my fears are larger and continuous.  They can be an omnipresent being that hovers over me like a dark cloud and no matter what direction I go in its still there. 

So how do we get over these fears?  What are some of your techniques?   One that works well for me is Lo Jong.  The meditation technique is brilliant and helps me to understand that my fear is not so continuous; there are gaps and lights that are not so full of fear. 

Lo Jong invites you to constantly watch your thought, and feel the reaction that comes with that thought enter your body and leave your body.  Emotions such as fear are flickers of the mind.  So I watch my thought, my fear come in, and then I watch it leave.  I do not hold onto it.  And for the few seconds in between that it is gone I try to focus on my pure self.  I do this for an hour and I feel like I can knock that fear out of my system for a little while at least, enough to start what I need to.  Once I do, the snowball affect takes place and I am just working away not worried about the final results, but how I feel just being myself.    

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